The DIRECTOR

The DIRECTOR

Directors excel in self-reliance, leadership, focus, and crisis-resilience, but they may struggle with emotional avoidance, conflict resolution, and accountability.

They tend towards an avoidant attachment style, with an “activated” stress response, meaning they’re more likely to close off and walk away when triggered.

To grow, Directors can cultivate greater emotional awareness, nervous system regulation, and choose to initiate reconnection and repair.

NERVOUS SYSTEM

ACTIVATED

ATTACHMENT SYSTEM

AVOIDANT

ATTENTIONAL SYSTEM

AVERSION

STRENGTHS

Independence and Self-Reliance:

Directors are content and even energized by solitude. They value their autonomy and are capable of accomplishing vast tasks on their own.

Focused and Productive:

They are naturally goal-oriented and have a strong work ethic. Their ability to maintain focus often results in successful careers or significant achievements.

Crisis Resilience:

When faced with high-pressure situations, they remain composed and resourceful. They excel at finding solutions and taking control of chaotic circumstances.

Big Vision:

Director’s are often connected to a strong sense of purpose and mission and are good at doing whatever it takes to make it a reality.

TRIGGER CHALLENGES

Emotional Avoidance:

In moments of emotional distress, Director’s tend to reject or suppress their negative emotions. This can hinder self-awareness and emotional growth.

Externalization of Aversion:

They may project their discomfort or frustration, attributing the cause of their negative emotions to external factors rather than acknowledging their own feelings.

Difficulty in Conflict Resolution:

These individuals might struggle to initiate or engage in repairing conflicts. Their avoidant tendencies to disconnect or cut someone out when triggered can undermine resolution.

Isolation and Loneliness:

Finding safety in isolation can lead to loneliness. Director’s may hesitate to seek emotional support or open up to others about their feelings.

Accountability Struggles:

Fully owning their emotions can be challenging and acknowledging their own role in conflicts or emotional triggers may require effort.

THE DIRECTOR GROWTH GOAL:

Train how to come back into connection with self (and then with another) in
increasingly shorter periods of time.

PATHWAYS FOR GROWTH

Cultivating Emotional Awareness:

Directors can begin by acknowledging and processing their emotions, even when uncomfortable, to foster emotional growth and self-understanding. This includes recognizing and naming their emotions and the physical sensations associated with them.

Nervous System Regulation:

Training their nervous system to shift from an activated state to a state of connection is essential. This helps them manage stress without resorting to emotional shutdown.

Trigger Tracking:

Directors can practice tracking their emotional triggers and taking proactive steps before overwhelming emotions take hold, allowing them to respond more constructively.

Initiating Repair:

Learning how to initiate repair after a trigger is essential. Valuable growth is for a Director to learn how to come back into connection after a trigger.

Seeking Support:

Director’s can grow immensely by recognizing the value of seeking emotional support from trusted individuals. When they learn they don’t have to do it alone, a whole new side opens up.

Techniques to Explore:

Anger Release Methods:
Experimenting with healthy ways to express and release anger, even when it has been repressed or redirected.

Breathwork:
Engaging in various breathwork exercises to calm the nervous system and regain emotional balance.

Body-Based Meditations:
Incorporating meditation practices that promote mindfulness and grounding to stay present and attuned to emotions.

Effective Communication:
Developing skills for constructive conflict resolution and maintaining healthier relationships.

NEXT EVOLUTION OF THE DIRECTOR:

The HERO

The Director’s natural evolution, the Hero, has the self-reliance, vision, and resilience of the Director, but with secure emotional relating and an open heart.

This evolution happens once the Director cultivates stronger emotional awareness, compassion and communication skills.